Kim Bongiorno is an author, freelance writer, and blogger. Best known for her popular blog LetMeStartBySaying and Facebook Page, she has also been published in three books, all while writing for sites such as InThePowderRoom, The Huffington Post and others. Kim lives in New Jersey with her handsome husband and two charmingly loud kids.

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You’ve Got Mail

By the end of the summer, I find myself talking to my kids in That Voice more than usual.

You know the one.

It’s a hushed version of Angry Voice, because your patience is worn out, your house is in transition between Sandy Lazy Summer and hyper-organized School is in Session, your kids have no more concept of Indoor Voice and are whining/fighting/tattling more than you thought was humanly possible.

Everyone’s been all up in everyone else’s grill for far too long, and it’s not quite as easy to communicate. You’re all on edge, and it isn’t pretty.

Last month, my six-year-old daughter wanted to make mailboxes.

I dug out a few small cardboard boxes, cut slits in them, and pulled out our most fancy stickers.

These bedazzled mailboxes kicked around the living room and basement playroom for a while, then ended up placed on the floor just outside our bedroom doors.

And mail began to appear.

Love notes, apologies, thank-yous and more.

Communicating with kids by Kim Bongiorno @LetMeStart on @TodaysMama

My kids would have something on their minds, and would tell us on scraps of paper, crumpled notebook pages, and even some nice stationary they swiped from my office (without permission).

Soon they started getting mail, too.

What we’re thinking, what we’re proud of, quick I love yous.

Another line of communication has been opened wide. One that gives us a moment to think about our words before saying them. One that lets our loved ones’ words resonate in the privacy of the moment.

Communicating with your kids by Kim Bongiorno @LetMeStart on @TodaysMama

What started out as a craft, then a game, turned into something quiet and helpful. Has retied the ribbons of our family knot tighter.

Sometimes it’s the little things that get us back on track, right at the very moment we need it.

Each time new mail arrives, I appreciate the reminder to stop, listen, and reply to the three most important people in my life.

(Even when it’s written on my very favorite stationary one of those people stole from my office.)

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What do you do to keep the lines of communication open in your family?
Please leave your experiences or tips int he comments below. I’d love to see them all.

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Comments (15)

  1. Nicole Shaw 09/18/2013 at 3:25 pm

    I like this better than anything I’d find on Pinterest. Really, really.

  2. Bethany Thies 09/17/2013 at 3:28 pm

    Love this, Kim. Words on paper are always a great healer.

    • Kim Bongiorno 10/04/2013 at 1:11 pm

      Especially in adorable little kid handwriting. 😀

  3. Amy Flory 09/17/2013 at 6:33 am

    I love this. Not only for the new line of communication, but also for a vessel to hold all of the marked up scraps of paper littering my house. Thanks for the idea, Kim!

  4. rebecca at thisfineday 09/16/2013 at 11:56 pm

    I super love this! I think my new little writer and reader would way dig this. Thanks for posting!

    • Kim Bongiorno 10/04/2013 at 1:09 pm

      My daughter is in 1st grade, so the more she practices, the better it is. I just adore it all.

  5. Darcy Perdu 09/16/2013 at 5:08 pm

    What an awesome idea! That is so sweet!

    • Kim Bongiorno 10/04/2013 at 1:08 pm

      The notes get sweeter and sweeter. The ones to the cats and her stuffed animals and cousins…adorable!

  6. Stacia 09/16/2013 at 4:29 pm

    Well that’s a cute idea!

  7. Allison Hart 09/16/2013 at 4:14 pm

    Love this. I needed this exact post today, as I was just thinking that I spend so much of my time with my kids irritated with them.

    • Kim Bongiorno 10/04/2013 at 1:07 pm

      That’s exactly how I felt the day the boxes arrived. 🙂

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